Monday, March 28, 2011

A Quiet Day

  Mom and I went shopping to get some things for the wedding so Dad went to get Cayden from school.  He was really excited to see Grandpa there instead of Mom.  Cayden and my Dad have a bond like I never even had with my Dad, Grandpa is the world to Cayden and he thinks Grandpa does no wrong.  It makes me so happy to see the bond that they share, even though Grandpa doesnt know how to say "No", Cayden has Grandpa wrapped around his little finger that is for sure.  Cayden wanted to come home right away and ride his 4 wheeler and for some reason it wasnt starting so of course Grandpa came over to figure out what was wrong and worked on it for 2 hours and the 4 wheeler was up and running so Cayden got to ride for awhile. 
  Well thats all for tonight, its bath time and then bed time so I dont have to drag him out of bed in the morning like I had to this morning (he takes after his Mom in that aspect, not a morning person at all).

Thanks for reading, Emie

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Snow Day

  We got a ton of snow last night, which included Sleet, Hail, rain and Thunder and Lightning.  Jim was working nights and Cayden was freaking out because of the lightning and thunder.  He finally fell asleep around 11p and slept with me all night and got up around 8am.  He was pretty excited to have a snow day today. 
  He is now convinced that he can go outside to ride his 4 wheeler.  The snow is blowing sideways with winds of up to 50mph.  Im pretty sure if I did let him go out it wouldnt last long, but I'm afraid he'll blow away.  He is now in the bedroom putting puzzels together.  I was watching him play with the dog this morning and it is so cute to watch him play with her.  She is a 100lb, 1 year old Great Dane and he considers her his best friend.  He tells her all the time how much he loves her and calls her sweetie.  He was laying on top of her and she just lays there, it was priceless.  Then him and Chloie were pretending that they had their own childrens show, Cayden was the director of course, it was cute. He kept saying "Ok Children (talking to Chloie), Paco did something we did not like, so do we tell him we didnt like it or do we fight with him, thats right boys and girls we use our words", it was super cute.  The poor dog just goes along with it.
   Well thats our morning so far, I dont think we are wandering anywhere outside of the house today so it should be interesting trying to keep him occupied in the house while Jim tries to sleep.  Wish me luck.

Thanks for reading, Emie

Monday, March 21, 2011

He's 9 already.

  So I have decided that I am going to start blogging, I know my baby is 9 already but I will be blogging on what it is like to have Aspergers, ADHD and ODD in our lives. 

   So my baby turned 9, I cant believe how the time has flown by.  I love my son more than anything, he is my world.  We have everyday struggles but nothing we can't handle.  Cayden was diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, and Seperation Anxiety in 2006 at 4 years old.  This past year after more testing he was diagnosed with Aspergers, Emotional disorder and Anxiety.  This has been a long road for us but we manage.  Discipline is not handled the same, we compromise.  Everyday little tasks are handled differently, we accomplish little bits at a time.  Bedtime is handled differently, well bedtime just plain sucks (his body does not slow down enough for him to fall asleep by himself so I have to lay with him with my arm over him so he calms down enough to let his body attempt to relax) his body moves ALL night long.  These are only SOME of the things that we do differently than other households with children his age.  

   Some of my struggles are that some people just dont get it.  Until they walk a day in my shoes or shoes similar to mine, they wont get it.  There are comments made all the time about my child being a brat, spoiled, or my lack of parenting skills.  This hurts, but I know I try my best and I have done my research, more research and more research, and I understand the horrible effects, feelings and outbursts that he experiences and that to me is all that matters, no one else NEEDS to understand it.  Do I wish they would?  Absolutely, but I understand that not all people will.

   Cayden was just placed in Special Ed classes with an IEP finally this past Jan after MANY, MANY months of testing.  He is doing fantastic in school now, he got a 100% on his last 6 spelling tests.  He tested at a much higher grade level for his math, so that is wonderful for him.  The only problem with math is that if he knows that he is being timed on what he is doing he struggles, he cant handle the time restraint, although if they dont tell him he is being timed he flies right through with flying colors within the time limit.  The IEP was a godsent for him, I cant believe the difference this has made.

   Anyway Cayden has been saving up his money for 4+ years now for a 4 wheeler and last weekend his dream of a 4 wheeler came true.  I LOVE watching the excitment in his face and the joy that he experiences just knowing he saved all HIS money for that.  He was covered HEAD TO TOE in mud by the time he was done riding.   Although last night he had a breakdown because he wanted an Ipod and didnt have all his money anymore so it took alot of explaining. 

   I will try to write often, my goal with this Blog is to help people understand.

Thanks for reading, Emie